How To Overcome The Rejection

Everyone faces opposition to their goals.
Whatever direction we are trying to take in our
life, there will be occasions where things just
do not go our way. One of these obstacles will
be rejection.

There are two ways to handling this in a
positive manner. The first one is to learn not
to take rejection personally. Don’t think of
them as weapons being used against you. There is
not a conspiracy by other people to make sure
that you don’t succeed.

On the contrary many people are eager to help us
get further in life. The fact that there are
individuals and organizations who don’t accept
your request has nothing to do with you personally.
It simply means that this particular request was
not right either for you or the other party involved.

It is important to understand this and to make it
a practice not to take rejection personally. When
somebody or some organization tells you that you or
your request is not suitable for their business,
team, or situation, don’t take it personally. It
really is not about you.

Everybody in this world is looking after themselves
more than they look after others. People work first
and foremost in their own best interests. If the
offering or talent you present does not fit into
their best interests you are not accepted. It is not
you; it is most likely a combination of timing and
circumstances.

The second skill you need to learn is to look forward.
If you have received a rejection from one source, ask
for feedback, review the possible reasons, and then
try somebody else or modify your request to overcome
the objections.

Don’t look backwards, continue to look forward. Just
because a particular person didn’t think your request
fit into their capability or needs, doesn’t mean that
there isn’t someone else out there who needs what you
have to offer.

J K Rowling, the extremely successful author of the
Harry Potter books, had many rejections before her first
book was accepted. If any book should have been snapped
up by publishers one would have thought Harry Potter
would have been it. But, there were at least 12 publishers
who didn’t see this gem when it was presented to them.

How do you know whether your gem will be spotted the first
time around, or even the twentieth time? You don’t know.
So don’t look backwards when someone says “no.” Look forward
and call out - next!